I have been living in the same town all my life. The past 10 years I have been thinking about moving, I have even looked around at different areas that I would like to live. But still, I keep staying put in the same place. I feel stuck where I am. That is the best way to describe it. I feel like I am not moving forward and I feel almost like a prisoner. But I also feel that I am scared to move forward or go anywhere. I don’t know what I am looking to hear, I just wish this feeling would leave me. This bummed out feeling has been following me around for years and I want to get rid of it! I don’t want to sound desperate but, HELP!
I can almost hear the desperation in your voice! Actually, I wouldn’t really call it desperation, more like frustration. When we are in a situation, we want to move forward. When I say forward I don’t mean in leaps and bounds, but at least there needs movement. And then when there is no movement we begin to feel, to quote you, “stuck.” That feeling is probably one of the worst feelings. Because you know that movement needs to happen, you know that your feelings and emotions need to change. Some say that it is worse than anger because at least when you are angry you are doing things to get out of it. When you are “stuck” it is almost the same as when you are depressed. You know you’re there and you know that it is not making you feel good, but you feel crippled, like you can do nothing.
The first thing that I would like to acknowledge is that you wrote in, Kelly. You obviously listen to your feelings and are trying to change them. The next thing I would like to say is that everything happens in the perfect time space sequence. What this means is, even though you feel you have been struggling with this “desire to move” for so long and you feel you have just been ignoring it, you haven’t. Trust yourself, that you know the right time.
It sounds like now is the right time for you, Kelly. It sounds like you are ready to make the move, it also sounds like you are ready. You mentioned the word “scared,” why don’t you replace that word with excited? There are so many things that you need to be excited about. You need to be excited that you don’t know anyone, you need to be excited that you are going to be moving to a new city, be excited about starting a new career. There is so much that is going to be new to you, that’s what’s exciting. But the most important thing to know is that, the universe would never give you anything that you could not handle. If you are making the move, Kelly, it is the right time. You’re inner guide never leads you the wrong way. Sometimes though, we get too caught up in our own heads, and start using words like, “scared,” “alone,” or “won’t know anyone.” And then we stay where we are, feeling almost paralyzed with fear. I don’t know why we do this to ourselves, but we do. Why don’t we start having faith in ourselves? Knowing that no matter what, we’ll figure it out and make it work! Or maybe, at some point in our lives we were told that the unknown is bad, the familiar is good. That could be why we resonate change as scary, that could also be why we think the known is secure.
Please know that change is constant! Also know that sometimes we get so comfortable with where we are, even if it is not the right place, we would rather be there than surrender to the unknown. Whatever decision you make, it’ll be the right one.
“Change can be scary, but you know what’s scarier? Allowing fear to stop you from growing, evolving, and progressing.”